Search for happiness
Happiness is within us. It is a state of mind. It is not in gaining material wealth that a person becomes happy. However, most of us keep struggling for earning more and more money presuming that it will make us happy. The end result — people feel more stressed, strained, discontent and unhappy. The need is to understand the true source of happiness and put efforts in the right direction.
Firstly, all our actions need to be directed by our intellect. Actions should never be impulsive or inspired by our likes or dislikes, but initiated by logic and wit. Actions based on intellectual discrimination may initially appear unpleasant but they yield joyful and long-lasting results.
Secondly, one must place a higher ideal in life -wherein there is selflessness in whatever one does. And never get shaken up by trivial setbacks. Happiness is a by-product, not a goal. If you want to be happy, you will become unhappy: the very wanting will create unhappiness. That’s why people are unhappy. Everybody wants to be happy and everybody becomes unhappy. Happiness cannot be desired. You desire, and with desire comes misery. Happiness is a state of no desire. It is the great understanding that desire brings misery.
There are two ways to be happy. The first demands happiness, refuses all else, and so lives between hope and fear, dream and rejection.
The second way takes happiness when it happens but does not demand it and accepts all else too. It is in the acceptance of all else that happiness comes. One is no longer bound by the fearful wish to have, nor by the frantic will to hold, nor by the fervor to clutch at straws of certainty.
Forget about happiness, happiness cannot be achieved directly. Rather, think of what you enjoy, what you must enjoy doing, and get absorbed into it. And happiness will come on its own.
Resolve to be happy now. Life is not meant for worrying about something or the other every time. Make a resolution. “Today I am just going to be happy come what may. I will not let anything disturb my happiness. I am going to be contented, happy.”
We often presume success and happiness as synonymous. Happiness is living in the moment, the present and not the past or future. I am happy when I am able to convert someone’s tears to smiles, when I am able to feed a hungry person. Having less desires and doing my best in whatever I am into gives me pleasure. I live life wholeheartedly and sportingly. Happiness can make one successful because one values what one gets.
Happiness is a state of mind when we are positive, confident, lighter and true to ourselves. Not living in a dream world and having a broader perspective towards life is what makes one happy. I am happy because I don’t want extreme happiness. I can find pleasure in small things. And then I keep myself so engrossed in work that I hardly find time to think whether I am happy or not. I get unhappy when I find any one dear to me in some pain or misery. There are many successful and rich personalities who end up committing suicide. So even success and money might be a failure in making one happy. It is one’s basic approach towards life.
Happiness is a broad term that might be found in small things and not found in big achievements. It is how one perceives things. Unhappiness is a temporary phase wherein the person need to show his conviction. I am happiest when my work is praised by anyone. My most unhappy moments are those when I am misunderstood. It hurts when my close friends turned into foes. But then these things are quite temporary. What is permanent is one’s belief is his own self. And this is what keeps one going.
Happiness and sorrow come in equal proportions in every person’ life. After every sad moment, there comes a happy moment. One must always remember that others have much more sorrow than us. It is one’s patience and affirmative attitude during tough times, that help favorable times to come sooner. I am happy because I have true love around me. What makes me unhappy is the moment when any friend of mine betrays me.
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